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jloya
01-12-2011, 09:05 AM
sorrry for this semi random post but I feel like I just gotta type this out / say it in some wya shape or forum :p


my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years leaves tomorrow to study in Spain for 6 months

it never really started to hit me until last night / when I woke up....

...I guess at this point im just starting to feel num.....its hard to imagine that someone who is such a big / significant part of me and my life will be gone for half a year...sure we can skype/chat which will help but I cant help myself but wonder if she will still be the same when she gets back or vice versa....

anyone deal with this at one point or another? Being separated from a loved one for such an extended period of time?

any tips/ advice:confused:


:(

joeyjackpot
01-12-2011, 09:16 AM
She will be completely different after she comes back... but not in a horrible way... and not in a way you should be afraid of. Just keep in touch, but give her space and let her actually have the experience. This will be hardest on you, in your regular setting, wondering. but just remind yourself you are a sane, normal person and you shouldn't act otherwise... and you'll be fine. People have been away from each other longer and made it work. If you guys are good together and work well together, you'll be fine. And if you don't, it's better that you know now.

kylebru1
01-12-2011, 09:19 AM
joey is right, it will be difficult, but im sure you have friends you can surround your self with. stay faithful obviously, and if you trust her im sure everything will be fine. its a chance in a lifetime for her so joey was right again let her enjoy that experience, girls hate nothing more than someone who smothers them with phone calls, texts, emails, etc. just enjoy the skyping and stuff while she is there and know that alot of times relationships are stronger after something like this. praying for safe travels for her and strength for you both!

jloya
01-12-2011, 09:25 AM
thank you both, that has made me feel as comfortable as a can with the situation

if we can come out of this together then I also believe it will make us substantially stronger

I start school next week as well so im sure that should help in keeping my mind busy with other things

@ joey - if you ever make it out to traffic ridden socal Ill buy you a beer

Droidinite
01-12-2011, 09:26 AM
My girl and I were apart pretty much for 4 years of our relationship. I was in the navy and was on 2 deployments for 6 months at a time. Im not going to say it was easy all of the time but hey what is. I honestly think that it made our relationship stronger and we appreciate each other more because of it. I would sometimes go a month or so without talking to her when I was on deployment so it was hard at those points in time but we got through it and now we have been happily married for almost 5 years now. You will learn to appreciate each other more when she returns. I hope this puts you at ease a little bit.

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smalltowngirl13
01-12-2011, 09:40 AM
Nothing that hasn't already been said - but the old saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder" and if it is it meant to be, this is a small building block in the foundation...good luck to ya both!

dkst0426
01-12-2011, 09:40 AM
It's only 6 months. Believe me, it will fly by and she will be back home in your arms before you know it.

It may not hurt to tell her how you're feeling - I assume you're excited for her, but as you said, you hate the prospect of not being around her for the next few months. Open lines of communication always help. My two most serious relationships (including the one with my now-wife) have been long-distance. With my wife, it was about as far apart as you can get in the lower 48, with me in NC and her in SoCal. If you are both committed to this, you will find a way to make it work, and yes, I echo what Droidinite said about how time apart makes you appreciate time spent together so much more.

Take her out tonight, have a nice dinner, don't waste time watching a movie, and go do something where both of you can enjoy each other's company.

joeyjackpot
01-12-2011, 09:48 AM
dsk has a great point. just tell her you're sad and you'll miss her. don't hamper the joy or excitement of her trip, but make her feel special. let her leave on a note that's going to make her miss you too. when she gets lonely in a new place she can think about knowing that you're there waiting for her and it will comfort her.

and thanks bud haha i won't ever turn down a free beer

jloya
01-12-2011, 10:05 AM
thank you everyone

we have spoken about our feelings towards the situations quite a bit which has helped but now that its happening its just like ahhhhhhhh


I did get her a nice heart gold locket necklace with a few pictures of us in it for xmas :)

all this has helped me be at ease a bit more so once again thank you and it is all very much appreciated

greevedogg
01-12-2011, 10:23 AM
tell her not to go running with the bulls...that sh!+'s dangerous!

Count X
01-12-2011, 11:03 AM
So my best advice is, don't do anything while she's gone that you will have to hide when she gets back
As long as she does the same you guys will be fine.
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DebianDog
01-12-2011, 11:40 AM
So my best advice is, don't do anything while she's gone that you will have to hide when she gets back
As long as she does the same you guys will be fine.

11341

On the other hand Spanish guys are freaking STUDS so I hope she loves you!







If you have been going together this long I am sure it will be fine ;)

jloya
01-12-2011, 11:51 AM
11341

On the other hand Spanish guys are freaking STUDS so I hope she loves you!







If you have been going together this long I am sure it will be fine ;)


hahahaha THANKS debain :P

actually I am half Spaniard...im hoping shes aalready enough of the spanish taste to satisfy her :p

maybish
01-12-2011, 01:04 PM
11341

On the other hand Spanish guys are freaking STUDS so I hope she loves you!







If you have been going together this long I am sure it will be fine ;)


Give this guy my phone number!!! Hot hot hot!!! Hehe!

Anyway everyone seems to have really great advice. Sorry that you're gonna have to go through some pain of missing your loved one. Its hard but itll get better!!!!
sent from May's DROID

usmc7356
01-12-2011, 02:09 PM
Trade her for another x. They are faithful and come with less baggage after rooted and rom'd ;)

Swyped on magic x machine with dxf app

jloya
01-12-2011, 03:05 PM
well I saw her on my lunch and we said our goodbyes....that was much harder than I had thought....

t - 6 months..

DebianDog
01-12-2011, 03:20 PM
Set up a counter in days or hours seems to go faster for me. Online Countdown Timer (http://countdown.onlineclock.net/)

Only 509 days left of child support for instance ;)

jloya
01-12-2011, 03:30 PM
hahahahaha

joeyjackpot
01-12-2011, 03:46 PM
awwwwww i'm sorry she's gone bud. but now every day is one day closer til she's back.

jloya
01-12-2011, 03:53 PM
awwwwww i'm sorry she's gone bud. but now every day is one day closer til she's back.

thats exactly how i was trying to look at it....

Im leaving to Colorado for a week tomorrow (sorry guys wont really be on the forums much) so that should help ease my mind off of everything

nothing like fresh powder :)

maybish
01-12-2011, 04:03 PM
Have fun!! Good thing you're going! Keep your mind off things!

sent from May's DROID

plumcrazy
01-12-2011, 06:07 PM
EDIT: this wont end well.

forget her now, it will be easier on ya.

Dustin0308
05-13-2011, 12:26 PM
Let us know when she comes back. :)


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